Sunday, March 31, 2013
God is so faithful to remind me we are right where we need to be doing the things He wants us to do.
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Henry has been VERY excited about decorating Easter Eggs. He didn’t even want to eat lunch today. He is SO cute. I just LOVE some things about his age. And then there are times like these…. when he pops the food coloring tablet into his mouth faster than I can blink an eye because he thinks it is candy.
After several minutes of washing of hands and brushing of teeth, we managed to have some fun again.
Hudson LOVES the melon from the edible arrangement Grammie Sue & Grampa Dan got us for Easter!
We shared the story of Easter with Henry today. We told him that Jesus died on the Cross for us. He was so cute when he asked why. I am sure he didn’t get my answer, but it’s such a privilege to communicate the most important thing in life with my child.
Thursday, March 28, 2013
My heart is sick. I literally feel like crying. Who knows if I can express it properly while expressing my heart for God and for others.
A tidal wave of self indulgence, emotionalism, gratification, being our own god, is sweeping over our culture like never before. And I can see and feel why people's Biblical convictions get swept away. It all seems fair and noble and right. My heart is troubled that my kids will grow up in a society where a relationship whether same sex or opposite sex is a means to gratify yourself and when that ends it's disposable. Where anything you want to try is tolerated and abstinence from anything from materialism, commercialism, sex to drugs is frowned upon. Trying is searching. Searching is finding ourselves. And God is just a picture on the wall or a pendant hanging from our necks.
And, by the way, God made me this way (sarcasm). Yes, we all have genetic weaknesses. Just like I would like to cram these feelings down with the pan of brownies on the counter. We are all seriously screwed up. The Bible makes that clear. I just don't get where the line gets drawn if the line disappears. If God isn't real and there's no moral standard, what is the moral standard? If not the Bible? I am serious. It doesn't hurt a child to grow up without a father? Whether the father left or the "mothers" are lesbians? I am living proof that a child needs a father in the home. Heck, the entire nation is screaming we are missing fathers. It's something innately in us. It's how God designed us. You harm a child without a mother and you harm a child without a father. Even if they have plenty of people to love them. Because I certainly did and so did my late brother. And because I am predisposed to an anger problem, does that excuse my rage? If a person is predisposed to be a child abuser, do we excuse them because God made them that way? I mean we all are failures and have weaknesses, and God knows and loves us. I am certainly no better than anyone else. I am not a better person, Christian, wife, or mother. I fail in every single category daily. But the idea that our culture redefines life and marriage is very disturbing to me. That the size soda an adult can purchase is in question but not if I want to kill a beating heart as long as it hasn't seen the light of day makes me think/know our culture is extremely shallow. That it's acceptable to destroy a husband's life, a wife's life and most of all a child's life for selfish ambitions. I am not above doing any of it. It's just that it's not only accepted, it's suggested.
Pleasure is the god of our day. The elite status car, the nice neighborhood, the good school, the sexual pleasure, the drinks. We imprison ourselves to them and sacrifice our relationships in the name of freedom while the spikes at the end of our chains go deeper into the cement of selfishness. Yup, been there. Will probably be there again. But I know there's a difference between failing and redefining the definition. So there's no moral standard. It's not that it's going to hurt one person, it's going to hurt us all.
How do we begin to raise our kids in this culture without the tidal wave taking them under? Maybe God has allowed us to live in such a time as this. The Jews in the time of Esther were fully integrated into society, so they weren't recognizable as different from the rest of the nation. Isn't that where we have been and are as Christians? Busy with our busy lives. Who can tell us apart other than we may not be available for social events on Sunday mornings and maybe we don't swear (most of the time) or drink. But is there anything that sets us apart? Do we know what is going on in our culture? I am preaching to myself. I am sickened by myself. We are called to be set apart ones in such a time as this. My prayer is that I will be. No matter what the consequences. To love each person with God's love but not to compromise my convictions. I am sure I will not be tolerated by the "tolerant". But in the wise words of Abraham Lincoln, "My concern is not whether God is on my side; my greatest concern is to be on God's side, for God is always right."
I’m gay, and I oppose gay marriage
- Wed Mar 27, 2013 09:29 EST
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By the way, I am gay.
A few days ago I testified against pending same-sex marriage legislation in Minnesota’s Senate Judiciary and House Civil Law Committees.
The atmosphere at these events (I’ve also testified elsewhere) seems tinged with unreality—almost a carnival-like surrealism. Natural law, tradition, religion, intellectual curiosity, and free inquiry no longer play a role in deliberations. Same-sex marriage legislation is defended solely on grounds of moral relativism and emotions.
Pure sophistry is pitted against reason. Reason is losing.
Here’s the problem: The national discussion of same-sex marriage treats the issue like a game of checkers, where opponents can quickly gain each other’s pieces without much forethought about the consequences. This unreflective view of the discussion has prevented any real debate.
In years past, defenders of marriage found it easy to win the battle on the checker board. Appeals to religion and tradition won hands down almost effortlessly. While same-sex marriage advocates argued for a more thoughtful consideration of the topic, they were mostly just bulldozed over.
The tide has turned. Same-sex marriage proponents now have all the “kings” on the board, and rule it. One only needs to consider media headlines from the last few weeks. We are bombarded with approvals of same-sex marriage. To the casual onlooker, not steeped in this issue, it would seem that conservatism has embraced same-sex marriage. Each day brings fresh news of Republican political elites, Fortune 500 companies, NFL members, and even Dirty Harry himself, Clint Eastwood, throwing their support behind genderless marriage.
The game we are actually playing is chess, not checkers. This sounds confusing, because chess and checkers are played on the exact same sixty-four square game board. Checkers is easy and it’s fast. It’s one of the first games children learn how to play. Chess is hard, requiring thought about the intended and unintentional consequences of every single move that may or may not be made.
In developing their goals for policy and law, politicians often look no further than the next election cycle. They’re concerned about votes. Supporting same-sex marriage now looks like a winner for them.
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It also looks like a winner for media outlets, concerned about revenues and readership, and for large corporations, eager to polish their images and create goodwill. Few of these outlets are interested in playing chess because a quick win at checkers is more important to them.
The sense of urgency regarding same-sex marriage, now palpably frenetic, is in itself a sign of our national discussion’s devolution into nothing more than slogans and emotions.
Our nation’s individual state legislatures and courts—including the Supreme Court— need to apply the brakes. Now.
As in chess, the unintended consequences deserve sound consideration.
Genderless marriage now enjoys an aura of equality and fairness, which suggests that the framers of the Fourteenth Amendment had same-sex marriages in mind as they penned their magnificent giant leap forward for humanity. While this situation is highly unlikely, those who selfishly seek additional “rights” for themselves have found their justification in the penumbra they now sense surrounding legitimate civil rights.
Same-sex marriage will not expand rights and freedoms in our nation. It will not redefine marriage. It will undefine it.
This isn’t the first time our society has undefined marriage. No-fault divorce, instituted all across our country, sounded like a good idea at the time. Its unintended consequence was that it changed forever the definition of marriage from a permanent relationship between spouses to a temporary one. Sadly, children became collateral damage in the selfish pursuits of adults.
Same-sex marriage will do the same, depriving children of their right to either a mom or a dad. This is not a small deal. Children are being reduced to chattel-like sources of fulfillment. On one side, their family tree consists not of ancestors, but of a small army of anonymous surrogates, donors, and attorneys who pinch-hit for the absent gender in genderless marriages. Gays and lesbians demand that they have a “right” to have children to complete their sense of personal fulfillment, and in so doing, are trumping the right that children have to both a mother and a father—a right that same-sex marriage tramples over.
Same-sex marriage will undefine marriage and unravel it, and in so doing, it will undefine children. It will ultimately lead to undefining humanity. This is neither “progressive” nor “conservative” legislation. It is “regressive” legislation.
Nowhere on any marriage license application in any state are the applicants asked, “Do you love each other?” Yet this is the basis on which same-sex marriage proponents seek to change our laws. Is the state really in the business of celebrating our romantic lives?
The mantra I heard repeatedly in Minnesota was that “marriage is about love, commitment, and responsibility.” But these three things are not the state’s interests in marriage. Marriage, from the state’s perspective, is about kids. Period. That’s the reason the institution exists. We should tremble at and fear the notion of undoing it.
For a nation that has no trouble selfishly creating a seventeen-trillion-dollar (and growing) deficit it will soon hand off to its children and grandchildren, perhaps this is asking too much. But for the sake of all children and those yet to be born, we need to slow down and seriously consider the unintended consequences of undefining marriage. Otherwise, we risk treating our progeny as expendable pawns, sacrificed in the name of self-fulfillment. We can do better than that.
Doug Mainwaring is co-founder of the National Capital Tea Party Patriots. This article reprinted with permission from The Public Discourse.
Monday, March 25, 2013
Saturday, March 23, 2013
Happy Birthday to Beth. Girls night for Beth’s 35th birthday! We will be the same age for exactly two months. We went out to sushi and wrote down our prayers and put them in envelope to all get together next year and read and see what God has done. That was Beth’s idea.
It’s hard to believe we met when I was 20 and Beth was 19. She was married with a six month old and I was years before marriage and kids. Soon she will be an empty nester and I am just beginning! Life is amazing.